Sunday, March 22, 2009

Epiphany

I had an interesting epiphany just now.

But first, the back story....

Tonight at midnight, Alson has an appellate brief due (whatever that is), so most of the weekend he has been working on that. On Friday night we had dinner with my mom and brother (they were driving back to NY after spending the week in NC for my brother's spring break), Saturday morning we had brunch before my mom and brother headed out, last night (and this morning) we watched Twilight, and today we went to the grocery store and the dog park. Other than that, the weekend was pretty uneventful, especially for me.

Alson is again working on his brief (final edits, yay!) so I, of course, was browsing Facebook in an attempt to entertain myself. While on Facebook, I was looking at a friend's pictures from the weekend. She was a year ahead of me in grad school, and we both worked in the same office for our assistantship, so we were friends and still keep in touch. She is a little bit older than me (she was a teacher for a bunch of years before going back to school), so I guess a little (or a lot) wiser. Her husband is in the army and is currently in Afghanistan or Iraq (I can't remember), but she by no means is sitting around at home all the time while her husband is away.

And this is when it hit me. Umm hello, why are you not out doing stuff!!! Just because Alson is stuck at home doing work doesn't mean I have to be stuck at home doing nothing. Granted, our situations are a little different, but essentially it boils down to a similar issue.

I guess part of the problem is rooted in our apartment being small, and doing work is kind of muddled with hanging out (even though I don't really distract him or anything) because he does his work in the living room, the only place we can be, unless we're in bed or the bathroom. It's like we are "hanging out" even when we aren't really. I think it would be different if he had an office to do work in, but alas, we don't. I dunno, does that make sense? Also, we are on a tight budget, so a lot of the things my friend goes out and does, we just don't have the money for right now.

Actually, these are just excuses. There are plenty of things that are cheap and/or free to do in DC, and we aren't hanging out when he is doing work because, well, he is doing work!

Moral of the story.....I am really going to try and make an effort to get out of the house and hang out with friends and do things I want to when Alson is busy with school.

13 comments:

  1. That's a fabulous epiphany. :-)

    If you ever need a partner to hang out with, let me know. :-)

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  2. One of the best kept secrets of couplehood- alone time! Even if alone is really with others. . .

    Enjoy!

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  3. I just moved in with my boyfriend recently and already I am having this same problem!Glad to know I'm not the only one :)

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  4. LOL I love your epiphany. :-)

    I'm also happy your broke (in a weird way) because I am too! This means we should hang out together and do broke-like-things when I'm not doing school work! haha

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  5. Yea Broke Mafia! :) We can play on the cheap together :)

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  6. I'm guilty of the same. Jon has class three nights a week, and rather than getting out and doing something, I usually just sit at home by myself. Boring!

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  7. hang out with me! being a law school widow alone at home is no fun. i figured that out about halfway through his first year and haven't looked back since. umm, i am in the broke mafia too!

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  8. I felt the same way in our one bedroom. You are always around each other even if you're not spending time together.

    Are you still running? That'd be a great thing to do - free and the weather in DC is getting to be so nice:)

    Later lady.

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  9. Can I please get on your date book? we missed you yesterday at mani/pedis!! xo

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  10. I've had that epiphany multiple times and somehow I never follow through with it. I'm more than happy to do things with you, especially since both of our husbands will be pretty much gone all of April.

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  11. I need to get out more too. Make new friends and have some fun stuff going on!

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  12. When is our next outing?? I am so sad I missed the potluck

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  13. I struggle with the same problem!! Sometimes I just have to remind myself that we are not tied together and I can do my own thing while he's busy!!

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